Many times I’d go into a gay bar and see guys playing out some gross interracial porno in their heads - with me playing the part of their Chinese pocket gay. “Many of us who are Asian American come out of the closet and walk into this weird bamboo cage, where we’re either fetishized or ignored. Jeff Chu, a writer who also lives in Brooklyn, can relate: “Racism still thrives in the gay community, just as in broader society,” said Chu. “The double-edged sword of living in a city with a large gay community is that the community gets so large that we finally have the opportunity to marginalize people within it.” “I relate to a lot of what EDDIE is feeling here,” said Joel Kim Booster, a Brooklyn-based writer and comedian. Enraged Dude Details Infuriating Experience What can I do? I might as well be a sexless monk. Why is there no acceptance, no space, no welcome for me in this white-painted gay community? I’m six-foot-one, 160 pounds, fit, and very good-looking. I had the same pain of being gay in high school and the same fears when coming out, too.
But it is unfair for a gay Asian like myself to be constantly marginalized and rejected. I understand that sexual attraction is subconscious for many people. Gay men, mostly whites and Asians, reject me because of my race and no one admits to their sexual racism. DanĪs a queer man of color - I’m Asian - I feel wounded whenever I am exposed to gay men in New York City, Toronto, or any city where white gay men dominate. I hope everyone has a happy and safe Pride. I’m taking a week off, so this week’s “Savage Love” is a reprint of a column that was originally published on January 13, 2016. “Pride and preferences” (Illustration by Joe Newton) The Best in Charlotte – Best in the Nest 2019.The Best in Charlotte – Best in the Nest 2020.The Best in Charlotte – Best in the Nest 2021.